Contend• /kənˈtɛnd/ • to strive in debate : argue • maintain, assert • to struggle for.
We are living in an age that has made war on biblical womanhood.
The modern feminist spirit has not merely questioned God’s order.
It has despised it.
It has taught women to distrust softness, to resent dependence, to mock submission, to scorn homemaking, and to view motherhood as a burden rather than a blessing.
It has flattered women with the language of strength while quietly severing them from the very places where many of them would have most deeply flourished.
That spirit has left wreckage behind it.
Women are more anxious, more medicated, more angry, more tired, and more discontent than ever, and still the world tells them the answer is more independence, more rebellion, more distance from God’s design.
But rebellion never brings rest.
It only makes empty promises.
Biblical femininity is worth contending for because it is God’s idea.
And whatever God designs, He designs wisely.
The woman was not an afterthought in Eden.
She was not a burden added to creation.
She was made with purpose.
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18.
That phrase has been mocked by modern ears, but heaven never mocked it.
A help meet is not a lesser thing.
She is fitted, formed, and fashioned for a holy purpose.
The woman was made to come alongside, to nurture, to build, to soften, to strengthen, to bring beauty, life, and order into the places God assigned her.
There is dignity in that.
There is strength in that.
There is liberty in that.
The world tells women that freedom is found in becoming harder, louder, more self-protective, more sexually available, less tied down, less maternal, less distinct.
God’s Word points in another direction.
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands.” Titus 2:4–5.
This is not a small life
This is a fruitful life ordered toward love, toward home, toward family, toward holiness, toward peace.
A woman thrives when she is free to be what God made her to be.
The world has worked hard to make women ashamed of the very things that often bring them the deepest satisfaction.
The instinct to nurture.
The longing to create beauty.
The desire to tend a home.
The joy of being fully given to husband and children.
The softness of heart that feels deeply.
The wish to be cherished, protected, and led by a good man.
These things are treated like weaknesses in the modern mind.
They are not weaknesses.
They are glories when rightly ordered under Christ.
And yes, this means biblical femininity cannot be discussed rightly without also speaking of biblical masculinity.
A woman is helped by a godly man who actually acts like a man.
The erosion of femininity has gone hand in hand with the erosion of manhood.
When men abdicate leadership, women harden.
When men refuse responsibility, women seize it.
When men become passive, women become exhausted trying to carry what was never assigned to them.
Disorder in one creates strain in the other.
But Scripture still speaks clearly.
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.” Ephesians 5:23.
Headship is not tyranny.
It is responsibility.
It is weight.
It is sacrifice.
It is the call for a man to love, provide, protect, lead, and answer to God for the home entrusted to him.
And when a woman is under the care of a husband who fears God, the order of biblical femininity becomes not suffocating but life-giving.
The feminist spirit hates this because Satan hates order.
Satan hates fathers who lead, wives who honor, mothers who nurture, daughters who are chaste, homes that are warm, and marriages that reflect Christ and the church.
Satan does not need every woman to become obviously wicked.
He only needs her to become restless with her role.
Discontent with her place.
Embarrassed by her design.
That is why this must be contended for.
We must speak plainly.
Biblical femininity is not embarrassing.
It is not outdated.
It is not oppressive.
It is beautiful.
A woman walking in obedience to God, loving her husband, loving her children, keeping her home, carrying herself with modesty, speaking with wisdom, cultivating peace, and fearing the Lord is not missing out on life.
She is standing in the middle of the very place where God’s smile rests.
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30.
That is the standard.
And for the woman who has been discipled more by culture than by Scripture, there is mercy.
The answer is not despair.
It is repentance.
It is coming back to the Word.
It is asking the Lord to root out the feminist poison that has crept into the heart and replace it with a glad submission to His will.
Biblical femininity is worth contending for because it is one of the quiet ways the glory of God is still put on display in a dark world.
So contend for it.
In your own heart first.
Then in your home.
Then in the lives of your daughters and younger women watching you.
This world has enough angry women, but it is in desperate need of biblically strong feminine ladies.
Contend on.
Biblical Womanhood
♥️P.S.♥️ this is the beginning of a new series called “Things We Should Contend For”, and I believe it may be one of the most important series I’ve written in a while.
We are living in an age that has grown careless with things that should have been guarded fiercely.
So this week we are going back to the Word and taking hold of what still matters.
Tomorrow’s post in the series will be:
“Things We Should Contend For: The Souls of Our Children”
If you have children, grandchildren, or any spiritual influence over the next generation, you will not want to miss it.
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