Just Go To Sleep:

From the archives:

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just go to sleep.

That may not sound like the most spiritual advice you’ve ever heard, but I’ve learned over the years that it’s more biblical than we give it credit for.

“He giveth his beloved sleep.”

(Psalm 127:2, KJV)

There’s something settling about letting your eyes close when your heart is heavy and your mind is tangled.

Sometimes the most obedient thing you can do is crawl into bed and trust that the Lord can handle what’s unfinished.

We learned this in marriage.

Early on, when our home was full of little feet and sticky hands and endless needs, my husband and I made a vow that we would never go to bed angry.

We took seriously the words from Ephesians:

“Let not the sun go down upon your wrath.”

(Ephesians 4:26, KJV)

And we meant it.

We’d wait until the kids were asleep, then talk it out.

Try to settle whatever disagreement had gotten under our skin.

At first, it felt noble.

Mature.

Like a way to prove we took our unity seriously.

But more often than not, we were exhausted.

And when you take two overtired people, one unresolved problem, and a midnight hour, emotions run hot.

Words get sharper.

Tears come quicker.

We’d stay up too late, spinning our wheels, digging trenches we didn’t mean to dig.

As the years passed, we began to understand the verse more clearly.

It doesn’t say not to sleep until you’ve solved every disagreement.

It says don’t let the sun go down on your wrath.

That’s your spirit, not your circumstances.

That’s your heart posture—not your final decision.

The command is not about solving everything by sundown—it’s about not carrying anger with you into rest.

Some disagreements are small, and what they need more than a conversation is a little quiet and a little sleep.

Time & rest have a way of sifting out what matters.

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How many times did something feel urgent at night only to fade in clarity by morning?

I’ve woken up many days wondering why I felt so hurt or offended the night before.

A little distance, a little quiet, a little sleep often makes space for grace.

This has been true in more than just marriage.

Over the years, I’ve found that when I’m tired and overwhelmed, everything feels heavier.

A decision I’m trying to make, a conversation that stung, a feeling of insecurity—when I try to process it all in a state of exhaustion, it rarely leads me to peace.

But when I pause, pray, and lay it down, I usually wake with clearer eyes and a more honest heart.

I’ve come to trust a simple rule.

Don’t make decisions when you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.

HALT.

It’s not a commandment, but it’s wise.

The Lord doesn’t rush us into every conclusion.

He knows we’re dust.

He knows we need rest.

There are some situations that need a heart settled in sleep before they can be addressed in strength.

There are also some seasons of grief or anxiety that can keep us restless.

I’ve had nights where the burdens were too big to lay down easily.

Nights when all the worry in the world seemed to come rushing in the moment my head hit the pillow.

On those nights, I’ve had to remind myself—He doesn’t sleep, but I can.

“Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.”

(Psalm 121:4, KJV)

He stays awake so I don’t have to.

That’s the mercy of the God who watches over His children.

That’s the comfort of the One who knows the end from the beginning.

I don’t say this as someone who always gets it right.

I still lay awake sometimes.

I still overthink.

But I’ve learned that sleep is not surrendering to weakness—it’s surrendering to trust.

Trust that the Lord is not waiting for me to figure it all out before He grants peace.

Trust that resting when I’m weary is not laziness, but faith.

So if find yourself wrestling with something one night, maybe the best thing you can do is stop talking, stop turning it over, stop gripping it so tightly—and just go to sleep.

Don’t go to bed in wrath.

Don’t let anger settle in your spirit like a heavy stone.

But if the matter is small, if the emotions are high, if the only thing left is fatigue—rest.

God is not threatened by what’s unresolved.

And His mercies are new every morning.

Let Him meet you there.

With strength.

With perspective.

With peace.

And with the wisdom that sometimes, the most spiritual thing you can do is lay it down and close your eyes.

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